Hello! Are there any heterosexual single men who-love-dogs out there?
A couple of evenings ago, Mum was quite excited to try dog-owners speed dating that was held at the dog-friendly Marmara Hotel – organised by DigDates.com.
Something different – I suppose. We arrived early to be sure we could participate in the speed-dating part of the evening. We checked out some of the vendors for the evening.
We met some cute puppies who were up for adoption.
These puppies were rescued from Puerto Rico by The SATO Project –
A charity dedicated to rescuing abused and abandoned dogs in Puerto Rico. They reminded us of Lucky and Polo.
After an hour of socialising, the call for all who were participating in the speed dating to take their seat.
I did as I was told.
Ah, the men are suppose to sit in the numbered seats and the women on the unnumbered seats because they are suppose to shift over. And we doggies had beds to sit on –
supplied by P.L.A.Y. (P.S. We love their beds – we have one!)
So this was what appeared before our eyes!
The speed-dating began and the level of noise was tremendous … from where I was sitting, I had no idea what was happening. I just sat and moved along when Mum shifted over to the seat next to her – I’ll let her tell you about it.
But we did meet some sweet doggies.
Four to be exact!
May’s comment: When I learnt about this speed-dating for dog owners in NYC – it totally peaked my interest and jumped at the chance to attend – not in the hope of finding someone but because I thought it was too good to be true. Heterosexual single men with dogs are a rare breed in London – what about NYC?
Well, the women came in force. More than 25 women came but only 25 were permitted to be in the speed dating hour. I had seat No.1. LOL! (Because I had spoken to the organisers and said I would like to experience it and comment on it.)
Observation: All the women had dogs. Three of the less than 25 men seated had dogs. Whenever I sat across from any of the guys without dogs, I inquired – do you have a dog? Their answers were mostly – yes, I grew up with them or “my (family) dog is with their parents.” At least one had a dog and lost it when he separated from his girlfriend. Case in point – the woman took the dog.
A good concept especially since dogs are the best ice-breakers. And from observation, I think maybe one or two did hook by the looks of it. But the majority of the people were amused and maybe a little disappointed. The setting was not conducive – seated in such close proximity and everyone talking at the same time meant it was very difficult to hear. And while the idea of the women moving from one seat to the next was “liberating” – the only problem was – almost all the women had dogs and had to move them along when they moved when most of the men didn’t have any.
The feedback after the event: Some of the women felt they were made to feel “desperate” and the men who were there felt like they were in a “meat market”. That sounds like most social scenes – to be honest.
The reason I was keen to attend was to see how it works is because it had crossed my mind to do something similar in London – “Must Love Dogs” criteria to a social event. Yes, of course my friends were thrilled for me – maybe, they thought. But I had very quickly realised through walks in the parks and even at our dog meets, heterosexual single men no matter what age with dogs are rare. In the eight years, I’ve had Darcy, I have met one but he was way too young and I ended up with the dog when he was out socialising. And he too now is hitched with another. Oh, oh – no wait! There was another – but oh, so needy! And not quite a man. 😉
So my conclusion had been right – heterosexual single men in BIG cities like New York and London are few and far in between. Because when speaking to someone we met on the plane to LA – she told me they exist there. Maybe it’s just a big city issue.
But in the end I think some of the women actually found new friendships – like I have since my two pooches became a part of my life. Almost all my new friends from the last eight years have been because of dogs – a lot of new girlfriends and their husbands/partners and gay couples.
Lesson realised: If you live in big cities like London and NYC, and think your dog can help you meet like-minded dog-lovers – think again. Might be better to move to LA or Dallas … even then. It is no guarantee though dogs are the best ice-breakers. Though that experience rather put me off dating!
But at the event, I did learn something about a dog rescue effort.
“Since its inception in 2011, The Sato Project has largely focused its efforts on a place unfortunately known as “Dead Dog Beach” in the municipality of Yabucoa, one of the island’s poorest. We have rescued over 3,000 dogs to date, rehabilitated them with the highest standards of veterinary care and placed them in loving homes in the mainland U.S. We are addressing the underlying causes of overpopulation, abandonment, and abuse through community outreach and a low-cost Spay, Neuter, Vaccine and Microchip Program. Since the devastation of Hurricane Maria, The Sato Project has evacuated over 1,600 dogs to safety and is working to keep families with their beloved pets, and to help the many animals left behind in the storm’s aftermath.”